Friday, March 23, 2007

Girl Chat...

I had a great meet-up with my Australian blogger pals while I was away. We met for brunch and everyone brought their significant other. Ofcourse only one of the three men actually knew about our blogs so we had to be somewhat careful in not letting that cat out of the bag.

It felt like the post-apocalyptic version of Sex and the City. We are all in our early 40's in the "important" relationship - the complete otherside of the planet from NYC where the show takes place and now all having to stare down infertility and create our own families.

I was so impressed with both Susie and Sparkle. They are strong women who have already been through so much on their journeys to motherhood. Their determination and focus was truly inspiring and I hope that I can follow in their foot steps.

Sparkle is pregnant through DE and Susie reported at brunch that she has found not one but two donors and is syncing cycles in order to get started.

It was interesting to chat about the Australian laws v. US approach to DE. You cannot compensate the donor in Australia and 9 out of 10 times the recipient has to go out and find her own donor. In the US donor egg has become a huge business and it was hard for Sparkle's husband to understand how donating eggs is an altruistic act if you are being paid $6500. The standards are different in the states, people expect to be paid, but they still believe that they are giving someone the gift of a child - and they are.

Personally, I think the fact that it is a business transaction makes it all a little cleaner and simpler. This doesn't take into account how the prospective child might feel about it 18 years from now but I can only take one step at a time.

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